Plan Your Year in Three Words

Plan your year in three simple words. It’s more challenging than it seems yet there is magic in its simplicity. Join me as I apply this process to my year.

The Model

“There is nothing new under the sun.” So it would make good sense to see if you can find a model to follow. Someone who has experienced some success doing the thing that you want to do. Because success leaves clues. I want to find the clues and see what I can pick up to incorporate into my experience. Maybe avoiding a few hiccups along the way.

I looked back at 2017 and I knew I didn’t exactly want to reproduce those results. (I’m going to save the ugly details for later.) I also learned some very valuable lessons that I knew would benefit me this year. However, I struggled with achieving some goals that left me committed to doing better this year. In my quest I found  an article by Chris Brogan that would change everything for me… My 3 Words for 2018

I found a model that I could use and make my own.  The two essential requirements for success – it’s simple and it works!

Trigger Words

I’m fully aware of the power that a single word can produce. I know that there is magic in a word when it is anchored to an emotion or memory. I’ve experienced complete transformation, both positive and negative, by hearing one simple word.

 

Neurologically, we have an instinctual reaction to words and language. Researchers have found that we are hardwired to associate sounds with images, even in words we do not comprehend. via 189 Powerful Words That Convert

The thought of anchoring my whole plans for the year on 3 words seemed simple enough. I already had an idea of where I wanted to focus my attention. Now, just pick three words and write them on the wall.

Just one problem…

 

What 3 Words…To Plan Your Year?

The concept is simple enough, but hanging my daily plans for 365 days on 3 words? That is quite another thing. Could I pick three words that would properly reflect everything I wanted to accomplish for the year? They had to be broad enough that I would be inspired to accomplish them without getting bored and jumping ship. They had to be deep enough that I would never feel as if I had arrived. I had to select three words that were in alignment with my core values. Three words that help me accomplish my Vision Statement. Suddenly the choice held new significance.

Plan your year using three words is very different than setting three goals. Goals are something you work toward. They are measured by certain milestones. They occupy a certain amount of your schedule. You check them off when you’re finished. Not so with these planning words. You don’t work towards them 6 hours a day…you’re always working on them. Every single activity must be connected to one of these three words.

Here are my three words for 2018:

 

Content

Content was going to be my passion for the year so this one was easy. The more I thought about it the deeper that thought went. I have always had a content focus. Instead of setting a goal for volume of content I’m focusing on the deeper aspects of creating quality content that not only converts but transforms. 

Creating high quality, valuable content is my legacy to the world. To connect with an audience as Milton Gregory stated in the 7 Laws of Teaching, the UNKNOWN must be explained by means of the KNOWN. My mantra has always been – Simple Makes Awesome Easy! A quality content focus takes complex topics and renders them as simple as possible, but not simpler

Build

I’m using build as in body building. I’m going to build some new skills. Skills driven by last years experiences. Speaking, doing webinars, providing customer service assistance, communicating internationally, interpreting challenges and creating strategies has been the first step in creating a “body” that is prepared for the task.  I’m going to pursue and approach each of those task as a bodybuilder approaches a workout.

The bodybuilding analogy is appropriate given the lessons from the previous year. I jumped into 2017 going down a particular path only to get knocked off that path about midyear. I learned much, but I didn’t have much I could build upon. This year if it doesn’t build it doesn’t happen.

Community

Devote my time and efforts to communities of people committed with common interests and shared responsibilities. Provide as much value in those communities as possible focusing on how I can help them “get what they want so I can get what I want.”

I’ve learned much about building communities in the digital age. Committing to providing value in communities is the best way to demonstrate expertise and build communication skills. I’ve already found some communities where I will be a part and I looking for more. While at the same time creating my own.

It’s going to be an interesting year. I now have something I can remember (even if it is 3:00 am) stone cold. Three words that when I wake I already know what I’m going to do. When I have completed a task I know immediately what to do next. Three simple words that will be my litmus test for my entire year as they formulate my thoughts moment by moment.


What Are your Three words?

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The Law of Harvest

The law of harvest may be the most basic business principle of all. It is also the most neglected and ignored. There are no shortcuts to this fundamental law.

Law of Harvest – The Most Fundamental of Laws

The laws of nature and the laws of business are parallel principles in the same universe. You see this most clearly in the law of harvest.  Everywhere you look, unless you’re buried in the heart of the inner city and never get out into the rural areas, you see the abundance of harvest.  The law of harvest is manifest in 7 basic principles…

You only reap what you sow

A life, a business and a crop all have many things in common. What can we learn about life and business by looking at harvesting a crop? You get exactly the thing that you sow.

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The harvest belongs to the sowers. There is no harvest without sowing. There is always a portion of the harvest dedicated to the sowing process.

You reap the same that you sow

The harvest is directly connected to what you sow. In nature if you sow wheat you always get wheat. You never get bananas. Or if you sow a bad seed you end up with a bad harvest.

The same is true in business. If you sow in the field of your business purpose, value and quality, you get fulfillment, value and satisfaction. In the same manner if you sow intolerance, greed, and egotism, you will reap closed doors, and scarcity along with doubt and insecurity.

What you sow you will also reap. That law will not be broken, even if a guru promises you otherwise. There is no hack for this. You can’t change this rule.

You always reap after you sow

The idea that you can bypass sowing and go directly to reaping is a empty promise. One of the greatest dangers of the done for you programs is it develops the thought that you get benefit without effort. That thought leads to the action of chasing after the magic bullet rather than developing marketable skills.

You always harvest more than you sow

The effort required to sow pays a hundredfold at the time of the harvest. The seed sown always multiplies. it is the very nature of sowing and reap. Planting a single kernel of corn can result in a return of more than 800 kernels. You always harevet more than you sow. In your business if you make customer service a priority you’ll  have a harvest of loyal fans. One loyal fans can yield far more than the time invested in customer service.

You reap in proportion to what you sow

In the abundant world in which we live there is a limit to what we can receive. That sounds somewhat contradictory, but the limit is what we have sown. Sow a little and you will reap a little. Sow a lot and you will reap a large harvest. Give your customers a fraction of your time and you’ll get a small return. Give them 80% of your best effort and you get even less in return.

You will reap more if you give attention to what you sow

Once sowing has taken place you’ll get a better harvest if you attend to your crop. The same is true in business you must give attention to the customers. If you email them extras, provide them unexpected benefits, speak to their ever changing needs, the returns are far greater.

Harvest comes at the end

Patience is required for the harvest. Too many people quit too soon. They expect to sow one day and harvest the next. It doesn’t work that way in the field and it doesn’t work in business. The law of harvest demands that you wait for the harvest.

You can reap what others have sown

I’m not talking about taking another’s harvest. I’m talking about benefiting from others labors. Listen carefully to those who have labored before you. You can do a joint venture with those who need your skill set.


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Deep Thought – Subconscious is Your Guide

Your Subconscious Mind Guides You Into Deep Thought Processes

Your subconscious mind, which we later will call your deep thought mind, is designed to be your guide. That deep thought mind is best suited because:

  • It knows you better than you know you
  • It is hypersensitive to things beyond our senses.

That hypersensitivity is important, but comes with some challenges that we will address later. The benefit of the hypersensitivity is that it picks up things that your senses will miss. Things that are vital for your long term success. Things that can be distorted by your senses.

I call this the deep thought mind because it isn’t as simple as falling asleep and suddenly waking with the perfect answer. Your subconscious alerts you to things, relationships, connections and associations that your senses may not notice. It functions at a much deeper level than the physical realm. But to tap into the reservoir requires that we pay careful attention to it guidance.  We have to consider the value it brings. We have to take the time to think on its signals. We have to concentrate at that level rather than at the physical level. In other words, we are receiving the signals of the subconscious mind and taking them to a deep thought place. 

Your Subconscious Mind Is Looking Out For Two Things

Your hypersensitive subconscious mind wants two things for you…

  • It is looking out for your best long term interest. When deep thought is possible and
  • It is looking out for the best interest of others.

Those two things must be congruent with your actions for things to work for you. Otherwise things are working against you and you won’t be able to figure out why. If your wants aren’t going to be in your best long term interest then your subconscious mind will attempt to sabotage your efforts.

You may struggle focusing on necessary tasks. Perhaps your thoughts wander and you can’t properly concentrate. You could be losing emotional energy. Whatever it is, your subconscious mind is alerting you that things are not quite right. Your wants and your interests are not in alignment.

Why Your Deep Thought Mind Is Your Best Guide

Look carefully at the image below. The visual clearly depicts what is going on in us all of the time. We have our wants and desires. Those are greatly influenced by our experiences. Our experiences are picking up things by our senses. What we see, hear, smell, taste and touch all contribute to our experiences and help to formulate our wants and desires. But underlying all of that and overlapping it all is the deep thought mind. It knows us better than we know ourselves.

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What you want must be in alignment with who you are. Your deep thought process is taking your experiences and filtering them by your subconscious mind.

Your experiences will alter your wants. You hear a marketing pitch. You see a beautiful home or a salesperson makes you an amazing offer. Then you hear a political commentary. All of those things are designed to influence your wants and desires. It doesn’t mean they are all for you. Your subconscious mind is, at the same time, hearing different things.

I was working with a man a year ago on a project. The project was totally in my wheelhouse. This was in complete alignment with my skillset. I kept telling myself, “I was made for this.” There was just one problem. Everytime we spoke I finished the meeting drained. I was shut down. My creativity and imagination were gone. Emotionally I could no longer function. Something was wrong.

It wasn’t that I felt inferior around him. I wasn’t intimidated in any way. In fact I had a superior skillset for the task. Yet my subconscious mind was sending me signals that I was picking up, but not sure why. So I decided I need to pay better attention during our next meeting. Then I heard it. He would say, “It’s like taking candy from a baby.” When he said that I shut down. I lost my edge. My subconscious was putting the brakes on the project. I needed to pay attention.

I heard the words with my senses. He had said them several times over the time we were together. I needed my deep thought mind to interpret those words for me. This relationship wasn’t going to be in my best long term interest regardless of the financial gain it might represent. This relationship was beginning with the goal of taking advantage of other people and that’s not who I am. Time for me to exit.

Nurturing Your Deep Thought Mind

You always get more of what you reward. Rewarding your subconscious by paying attention and acting on the signals it’s giving you develops powerful habits. Develop the habit of paying attention to your subconscious so that you are capable of deep thought.

subconscious mind

Like any habit you start with the easiest things first. You work your way up from there. You begin with the things you can control to get micro victories to use as stepping stones to great achievements

Here is a good start:  

  • Quiet the noise around you. Begin by limiting the input your senses are experiencing. Shut down news input. You don’t need to hear the same story over and over. The results of Saturday’s football game may be getting too much of your attention for you to think deeply.
  • Pay careful attention to the signals you are getting from your subconscious. What are you feeling in this conversation? What happens to you after an encounter? Are you more creative or less? Do you feel empowered or drained?
  • Think after those things rather than the details. You’re going to get the details. You were made to do the details. Pay attention to the things that you’re being “told” while you’re getting the details.
  • Reward the signals. You will get more of what you reward. By thinking on the signals. By paying careful attention to how you feel and what is happening to you, you are rewarding your subconscious. You’re telling your subconscious; “Thank you. I appreciate you telling me that. I need your help and I’m going to act on your instruction.”

If you will begin here, you’re developing a powerful habit. Soon you’ll be thinking at a level far deeper than where you began. Soon you’ll be experiencing the flow state on a regular basis.

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The Power of Introspection

 

This series of Live Feeds on introspection has been a blessing to a multitude of people since it was presented. So I wanted to share it here with the notes included.

We live in a world where we have become very accustomed to talking about other people and their issues rather than looking at ourselves. Turning our focus on who we are will have life changing impacts. We when allow things to get inside our head that come out of our mouth and limits our capabilities.

Do the heart work required to focus on yourself that says,”I’m going to turn a blind eye to other people.” Don’t let other people and their performance in life limit what you can do. Stop feeling responsible for how other people do.

“As For Me…” – Key Phrase for Introspection

Instead of looking at everyone around you and measuring yourself by them take some time for introspection. Focus on you for a while. Let other things go. Let other people’s opinions and positions go. Focus just on you, “as for me…”

You are the only person that you can fix. When you are the best you that you can be you are in a position to make a difference.

I can take control of my destiny when I focus on me. I can’t control the actions of other people, but I can focus on me.

When introspection leads you in the wrong direction here are…

Five Things You Can Quit Immediately

  • Trying to please everyone – Because you can’t
  • Fearing change – Because you get more of what you reward
  • Living in the past – Neither the successes nor the failures will help you future
  • Putting yourself down – STOP IT! introspection
  • Overthinking everything – You simply don’t know enough to over think

Eliminating these things from your daily life and practice will immediately make a difference in your future. As beneficial as introspection can be don’t let it become an excuse for bad behavior.

Note: the videos are also available on podcasts. You can find the podcasts here. 

 

 

 

 

Learning to Say No!

Learning To Say No As Part Of Better Self-Care

Say No…there are too many nice people in the world today or so it might seem, with the number of yes folks you run into on a daily basis. However, what about the lesser heard evil sibling, the word NO?

 

As a child, you were raised to be considerate to others. You’re supposed to accommodate them as much as possible.

How do you know exactly when enough is enough? And more importantly, are you saying no to yourself by saying yes to others every time? Chances are that is exactly what you are doing, even if only subliminally.

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Piling On Stress

Not being able to say no can greatly contribute to high stress and real quick! Doing too much feelings of overwhelm cause and add to chronic stress, and people who can not say no are usually the first to fall victim.

It is important to understand your own boundaries and limitations, and while helping others is important, you have to take care of yourself.

This means sometimes saying no to friends and family, in order to maintain an optimal level of health and wellness for yourself.

Feelings Of Obligation

This is by far the most common cause of animosity between individuals.  We’re basically forced to say yes whether or not we want to. Maybe the person asking did a major favor for you in life, maybe it is a family member.

You feel a sense of obligation to always be on beck and call for whatever that person requests of you, but you need to ask yourself when is my bill paid in full? – will you continue to feel a forced sense of obligation forever?

This constant obligatory situation builds resentment, and resentment can literally make you physically ill!

You need to let them know you have to put yourself first, by doing what you need to do. If an issue arises, it may be best to sever ties and remove a toxic person from your life.

Weekday Partying

We sincerely hope you are not one of those weekday party animals! Though we fully understand the need to unwind after a tiring week’s work, there is absolutely no justification for staying out late and drinking on a weekday when you have responsibilities to meet the next morning! It is more than likely the result of friends asking or guilting you out even though you’re better sense says no.

You’re not doing yourself any favors as you will be tired the following day. Perhaps even hungover and miserable. Saying yes to that, is saying no to your well-being.

Enabling Bad Behavior

It has happened to all of us before, from a kid asking for something, hearing no and slowly breaking you down, to much worse influences on your life.

From friends begging you to help them get to the airport, to unnecessary spending, while it may seem ok or insignificant at the time, it enables bad behavior and disrespect over the long haul.

It needs to stay that way when you say no. You will gain infinite respect for having unbendable beliefs. You’ll be looked at as a pillar of strength.

Not Speaking Up

There have undoubtedly been numerous times when you sit quietly while something (or someone) boils your blood to the point of an eruption, yet you show no outward emotions. This can range from a boss berating you in the office, a bully, or a random stranger who finds it appropriate to assert their dominance over you.

By allowing it, you are doing just that, rolling over and assuming the fetal position. Open your mouth, demand your respect and speak for what you believe in.

Conclusion

We live under the illusion that things must be ok all the time. You need to look after yourself before you look after anyone else after all, lead by example!

Postscript

Just as I was completing the final edits of this article I was put to the test. You see, I have trouble saying no as well. I was completing the banner (the last thing I do before I publish) when I got a message. A friend asked me if I could do something for them. I normal would have simply said yes. Then made the necessary adjustments to my schedule (insert burning a few more hours after midnight). Not this time! I explained that I had work that needed to be done. I had clients that were counting on me to do my job. The victory…I felt empowered, not guilty.

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Time – Do You Give it the Proper Value?

How well do you manage your time? If you are having problems at home or at work, there is a good chance that your problems may be caused by your inability to manage your life.

 

    1. Recognize That You Have a Problem
      Knowing that you have a time management problem is the first step in changing your behavior. It is typical to be late for work or a social event on occasion, it is something that should not be happening on a daily or a weekly basis. If you’re constantly missing deadlines or finding yourself trying to catch up, there is a problem. You may have a problem!
    2. Decide To Change
      Knowing that you have a time management problem is important, but wanting to change is even more important. You need to set goals for yourself, as these goals can help to provide you with a source of motivation. Sample goals include showing up to work on time for a whole month, being on time for all dinner dates, and so forth.
    3. Stick To Your Goals
      Creating a number of time management goals for you to meet is advised, but it is important that you don’t give up right away or when you are faced with complications. Setting goals simply just isn’t enough, you need to stick with them.
    4. Create Daily Task Lists
      Creating a to do list for yourself is an easy way to properly manage your time. The simple of act of crossing an item off your list provides the boost you need to tackle the next item. It is one of the easiest approaches that you can take.
    5. Rely On Management Tools
      Properly managing your day is important, but it can be hard for many individuals to get use to, especially right away. If you are one of those individuals, you will want to consider using time management tools to your advantage. Did you know that many cell phones and computers come with alarm clocks, alerts, and so much more? One of my favorite tools can be found at the Action Fast Lane.
    6. Learn How To Say No
      In all honesty, there are occasions where you may not be able to refuse a project at work or a task at home, but try to not take on more than you can accomplish. At work an honest conversation about time/project management can help. In the home, this outside help can come from a housecleaner.
    7. Get Organized
      Organization is key to being able to properly manage your time. If you are unorganized, you are likely to waste a large amount of your precious resource. Clutter is a major distraction. Remove it!
    8. Consider Hiring Professional Help
      As previously stated, if you are overwhelmed at home, you may want to call on a professional housecleaner. In addition to taking this approach, there are other professionals that you can target. For the small business owner managing your own books is a time trap. Hire an accountant. There are individuals and companies who specialize in teaching others how to effectively manage their time and stay organized.

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